"I AM WOMAN - LOVE ME, DON'T ABUSE ME!"

I found this advertisement in one of the daily newspapers.   It is a clarion call for men to love and respect women and children and      d.
I would like to gently speak to men. Brothers, when God crated the heaven and the earth, He made Adam, the man  first. While he were busy naming the animals God said that he needed a suitable companion to help him with his work. So He took a rib from Adam's side and made a woman with it. He brought her to Adam and she became his wife in the first marriage.
You see that woman came out of Adam's side, not under his feet. The rib was taken from Adam's side.which says that her place is there at his side.  She is a companion, a helper that God specifically designed just for you!!! That means that women have exactly what is needed to help you succeed.
Let me ask you something. Suppose someone gave you a gift that you wanted and needed badly and which absolutely suits your tastes, like the latest new car on the market. Most men would be so happy that they got such a present FOR FREE that they would not allow a scratch on it, they would take care of it, and would proudly show it off to their friends. Well, my friends, that is what  God did when He gave you women. She was made to suit your tastes, you need her in your life and you need to be proud of her and treat her well.
She's also the one that God chose to carry your children in her body for nine months. It is a great privilege to be a father. So many men don't appreciate the gifts that God has given them and they either abuse their children or ignore or abandon them. Men, brothers like you are wishing that they had what you've got, and for some reason they and their wives cannot have children.
So, fellas. Love the women in your lives and don't hurt them. They are God's gifts to you.
IF YOU HAVE A DIFFERENT OPINION OR JUST WANT TO COMMENT, DON'T BE SHY.  MAKE A COMMENT.

" And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept; and He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man made He a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, 'this is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was from man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh. " Genesis 2; 21 - 14  (KJV)

THE THOUGHT OF THIS MAKES ME CRINGE!!!

I was looking through my email this evening while the radio played in the background. I wasn't really listening to the announcer, a Christian woman hosting a show. My attention was instantly riveted when I heard her say that a friend had just told her that many teenage girls were going to school WITHOUT UNDERWEAR!!!
Just like that announcer, I too was flabbergasted and shocked!  My underwear was the FIRST THING I put on every morning after I shower! Then the guest that was on the show mentioned that many girls would calmly raise their skirts to fix their shirts IN PUBLIC! (both primary and secondary schools in my country wear unfirms). So the thought of a young woman without underwear fixing her clothes in the street makes me CRINGE! THAT IS THE SUBJECT OF A NIGHTMARE!!
Why on EARTH would a young woman cheapen herself like that?

• Has she gone stark raving mad? Only a madwoman would do such a thing, is my way of thinking. But more and more young woman are doing that. They have left the "next-to-nothing"thong, and are now wearing absolutely nothing!
• What happens if that young woman suddenly starts seeing her period? She has nothing to "stop the flow" if you know what I mean. I know how embarrassing that could be, for my period  dirtied my clothes on Sunday morning when I was about twelve. And a MAN told me about it! HOW EMBARRASSING!!! AND I HAD ON UNDERWEAR!! What will happen to this one when the flowers dirty ALL HER CLOTHES AND WHATEVER SHE'S SITTING ON!!
• Where is that young girl's parents? One of the ladies on the radio show said that the parents of these teens are gone before they get up, so they have no supervision when they get ready to go to school.  "If she had a teenage daughter," said she, "I would be home to check the clothes basket every evening to see if  she wore any underwear that day." Me, I wouldn't have to check the laundry basket. I might have been a little more drastic! 

Does she respect herself and her body at all? She is not protecting a tender part of her body from infection and injury. With all the nasty STDs all over the place, what would happen to that young lady if she sat in a car or other vehicle where another woman with HIV or HPV sat without underwear? I don't believe she is thinking straight.

COME, LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT THIS TOPIC!!

"Stay away from lust that tempt young people. Pursue what has God's approval. Pursue love, faith and peace, together with those who worship the Lord with a pure heart." (God's Word Translation(@1995)

Anger Problems 5 - The Difference Between Life And Death

In Chapter 4 of Genesis, the Bible records the story of Cain and Abel, the first two children of Adam and Eve. Abel was a shepherd, keeping his sheep, while Cain was a gardener. The Lord God had told Adam and Eve that they had to bring an offering of a lamb to give to the Him. In obedience to God's commandment Abel brought the first lamb to offer to God. Cain was disobedient and brought the first of his crops from his garden instead. When his offering was not accepted by the Lord God Himself, Cain was so angry that he went out and killed his brother Abel

Here are more solutions to the anger problem

• Stay away from angry people. Did your mother or father ever warned you to stay away from such and such a person, because they're trouble? They knew that fraternizing with people who always get in trouble or are always angry will make you the same way.
• Count to ten or walk away so that your anger could subside. Abel should have done this, then he wouldn't have killed his brother and be banished from the rest of mankind.  The Bible says that a man that doesn't have control over his own spirit is like a city without walls. In Biblical times, a city without wall could be invaded by its enemies easily; it was very vulnerable and open to attack. So is an uncontrollable man.
• Forgive the person who made you angry. Don't let anger contaminate your spirit and make you bitter, like I was with my friend. You should go and resolve the situation as soon as possible. Always be a t peace with each other, for unforgiveness oftentimes hurts you more than the person you're angry with. And it gives the Devil opportunity to further destroy your life. And remember, if you die with this anger in your heart, you will be separated from God in hell.
• Get counseling for your anger problem. If you need help to help you control your anger, or if you have unresolved issues that make you angry, get a good counselor , pastor, psychologist to help you to deal with what's making you angry. 

Getting angry is not a sin, the Bible says that we can be angry and not sin. It is when anger erupts into destructive behavior or is nursed over a period of time without resolution that it is sin. So please, do what you need to do to control your anger.

"Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. ³ In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. ⁴ And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, ⁵ but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.

⁶ Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? ⁷ If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

⁸ Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.”^[d] While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him." Genesis 3: 2 - 8 (New International Version)

Anger Problems 4 - How To Deal With Anger Before It Destroys You Pt 1

A few week ago, my aunt and I was watching the Olympic Games when one of my girlfriends called me.  She wanted to come and visit  me at my house. This was the second time she had called asking to see me. But both times I refused because I was going through some tough situations and could not really handle visitors at that time.

Suddenly she started screaming in my ears,"if you don't want me to come at your house, say so!" I was very angry because I felt that she was being disrespectful to me -or so I thought!. The circumstances that assailed me then caused me to think that she was being hostile when in fact she was actually mock arguing with me. I hung up the phone and refused to call her back. Needless to say,  I hurt my friend's feelings immensely. 

I thought that I was at peace and was handling those situations well, but I was not. I was angry for whole week, until she called and we had a good talk about it. We patched up our quarrel and were in harmony again.

How can we manage our anger problems? Here are some suggestions.

1. Don't be too quick to react to whatever made you angry. Remember, be quick to hear, but don't be hasty to speak, and ESPECIALLY, don't be too quick to display your anger. Displays of anger doesn't do you or the person any good, and it does NOT glorify God.
2. Don't let the sun go down on your anger. It took me a whole week to get over my anger, even when my friend send emails apologizing to me. I just couldn't get pass the idea of her apparent disrespect to me. My pride and mistrust of her stopped me from wanting to reconcile with her. But if  I had called her back that same evening and had talked to her, peace would  have been restored to both of us - and my blood pressure wouldn't have raised and prevented me from going to church!
3. Have any situation like this ever happened to you? Come, tell me all about the biggest argument you ever had with someone and how you made up with the person - or not!)

    " Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry."  Ephesians 4 verse 26 (New Living Translation)

Anger Problem 3 - "Getting Away With Murder!"

I saw a part of an episode of Murdoch Mysteries last night. In it, a judge was grieved at the fact that murderers and other criminals got away with their crimes. He decided to do something about it. What was his solution? He framed them so that they would get the punishment he felt these criminals deserved.
I mentioned before that one cause of anger can be either righteous anger, or feeling a sense of injustice against one or others less fortunate. This judge had what I believe iwas righteous anger, but he took the wrong solutions in solving the problem. The court systems all over the world does seem to favor the criminal in many respects - a "loophole" in a particular law can cause a wrongdoer to escape justice.
It is hard not to take revenge when injustice is done. Especially if it was a very horrendous crime. It is hard for us to trust God and not "pay back" the person for what he or she did. But I have seen where  things have been done, even in secret, but God always dealt with the matter and makes it right sooner or later. Look at the life of Joseph from Genesis chapters 35 to 50.  His brothers hated him because of a promise of future superior stature to them, so they sold him. His owner's wife lied about him when he refused to have sex with her, and he  was put into prison. In a mighty move, God used the talent He had given Joseph to interpret dreams to interpret the dream of the Egyptian pharaoh and he was made Governor of Egypt, second in command only to Pharaoh.
Famine came to that region and his brothers came to buy corn from Joseph. After a long testing period God allowed Joseph and his family to be reunited.  Repentance and forgiveness was given and Joseph told them that God used what his brothers had done to save the future tribe of Israel from starvation.
So when you are treated unfairly or you think that someone may be getting away "with murder, " who will you act like? Joseph, who chose to trust God and later forgive those who hurt him? Or the judge in Murdoch Mysteries who took things into his own hands? By the way, did I tell you that the judge was hanged for his misplaced zeal?

GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
Remember this, my dear brothers and sisters: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and should not get angry easily. An angry person doesn't do what God approves of. James 1: 19 - 20 (God's Word Translation),

Anger Problems 2 - The "You Owe Me" Attitude!

Father of the Nation, Dr. Eric Eustace Williams

Trinidad and Tobago will be celebrating its Golden Jubilee day of Independence on Friday 31st December. I am very proud of my country in many way. We have achieved so much for two islands that look like dots in the midst of the huge landmasses of planet Earth. Just look at Keshorn Walcott. He is the first black man, from the Western Hemisphere to get a gold medal at the London Olympics for javelin throwing, a sport long dominated by white European countries.. Two of the three black Miss Universes (Janelle Penny Commission Chow and Wendy FitsWilliams) are Trinbagonians. Sir Vidia Naipaul, A Nobel Peace Prize winner  famous for his books A House For Mr. Biswas comes from my homeland  Our island even created the steel-pan, the most modern musical instrument. Yes, indeed we have much to thank God for.

But this twin island republic also got a lot of "blessings" that proved to be mixed. One of them were free education. Our founding father and first Prime Minister, Dr. Eric Eustace Williams, in a famous address said, "the future of our nation is in our children's schoolbags." Dr. Williams made it possible for the poor people who did not have access to schools to get a good education.  He also instituted the public assistance programs and other government aid schemes to help the less fortunate of this country. 

Unfortunately, many people have gotten into the mold that the government is totally responsible to supply jobs and other amenities. They feel that they are entitled to these things,and get extremely angry when they don't. They refuse to move beyond the 'help me' stage of entitlement and come together and find some way of helping themselves. There are so many extremely brilliant young men that use their talents and abilities to steal, kill and destroy people as gang members, when they can use these same abilities to help themselves and their communities.  

As our Independence Day dawns day after tomorrow and we have our Independence parades, let us resolve to move from a "you owe me"attitude to "what can I do to help myself and others?" mentality.

"Also, make it your goal to live quietly, to do your work, and earn your own living, as we ordered you." 1 Thessalonians 4 verse 11. (God's Word Translation #1995)

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Anger Problems

The world could be a pretty frightening place. We don't respect each other anymore. We feel that we're entitled to anything we want. When we see something we want, we take it without paying for it, even if we have to kill to get it.
There's a sad story of a young man who was killed on his birthday because a customer at his brother's doubles stand stabbed him. Why?  Because the customer refused to pay four dollars for one of vendor's doubles. (Doubles is a small, savory pastry made ground chick pea flour and filled with curry mango, curried chickpeas, pepper.)
Its just like I wrote about the radio announcer a few days ago, how he was miffed at the way a young lady spoke to him, a mature man. The thing is, you're afraid to answer or remonstrate with anyone anymore for fear of being maimed or killed.
Why are these things happening? Why are people so angry? So ready to fly off the handle for the simplest thing? The reasons are many:

• Unresolved issues
• Abuse as a child
• Generational trait passed from parent to child
• Tiredness and or ill health
• Lack of justice in a situation when one thinks they're being mistreated
• Sense of entitlement to things they never had. Felt cheated.
• Righteous indignation because of sin

My country has a nice expression: monkey see, monkey do. Our children learn from, AND DO what they see their elders do.  I'm fast seeing my country turning into Tombstone, but unfortunately Wyatt Earp seems to have gone on holiday somewhere. I will speak further about this situation.

" A gentle answer turns away wrath, 
    but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15: 1 (New International Version)