A few week ago, my aunt and I was watching the Olympic Games when one of my girlfriends called me. She wanted to come and visit me at my house. This was the second time she had called asking to see me. But both times I refused because I was going through some tough situations and could not really handle visitors at that time.
Suddenly she started screaming in my ears,"if you don't want me to come at your house, say so!" I was very angry because I felt that she was being disrespectful to me -or so I thought!. The circumstances that assailed me then caused me to think that she was being hostile when in fact she was actually mock arguing with me. I hung up the phone and refused to call her back. Needless to say, I hurt my friend's feelings immensely.
I thought that I was at peace and was handling those situations well, but I was not. I was angry for whole week, until she called and we had a good talk about it. We patched up our quarrel and were in harmony again.
How can we manage our anger problems? Here are some suggestions.
- Don't be too quick to react to whatever made you angry. Remember, be quick to hear, but don't be hasty to speak, and ESPECIALLY, don't be too quick to display your anger. Displays of anger doesn't do you or the person any good, and it does NOT glorify God.
- Don't let the sun go down on your anger. It took me a whole week to get over my anger, even when my friend send emails apologizing to me. I just couldn't get pass the idea of her apparent disrespect to me. My pride and mistrust of her stopped me from wanting to reconcile with her. But if I had called her back that same evening and had talked to her, peace would have been restored to both of us - and my blood pressure wouldn't have raised and prevented me from going to church!
- Have any situation like this ever happened to you? Come, tell me all about the biggest argument you ever had with someone and how you made up with the person - or not!)
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